The theories of love are probably too difficult especially when it comes to relationship or I am just that dumb. People make it seems like a perfect eye that sees or knows no blemish. Some had it divided into parts; they will speak of love and specify ‘true love’. There is that type that isn’t true right? But in all these classes or types as you may want to call it, love seems like the glamorized end result of a selfish process. At least in my opinion though.
Have you noticed how there are certain criteria/factors/specifications to be met before the falling in love process actually begins? Our exposure, environment, social status, communal experiences, etc seems to be the hinges on which love swings. It is common to hear ladies speak of “Tall, Dark and Handsome”. I didn’t realize how real it was until I heard a lady describe my friend who was wooing her in that term to her friends. I could see how their eyes shine as they giggle in admiration. Height/complexion/socio-economic status/religion/tribe/personality/physical appearance, etc are qualities we consciously or subconsciously tick before the love comes in.
Discussing with a friend on the kind of girl we would want to date, it all suddenly feels like going to buy a computer or phone; checking the specifications to match our requirement. These specifications having been engraved in our minds, we hardly do the sorting consciously which makes it all very instinctual. My friendship with a class of people hardly get past just friendship, my subconscious does makes sure of that. I asked a girl what she considers before heading towards relationship zone. Her response was “is it dating for fun or marriage?” she explains that even under both levels, it’s about the benefits. “He should be responsible; even if he doesn’t have huge amount of money, he must be able to care for me” she said. When it comes down to serious relationship, even philanders, cheats who sometimes are carefree about taste/specification draw out the very complex list of criteria. We all have the specification factor.
Reading a lady’s tweet saying “I don’t want a broke man” and the responses that follow, I honestly wonder (taking into consideration whatever type you believe exist) if love isn’t truly “a glamorized end result of selfish process”.
P.S: I appreciate those I asked questions from, thanks. Kindly post your specification/taste (whatever you term it) when your comment.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Friday, July 8, 2011
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
#FreetheCorpers
Truth be told; we always wait for things to get to a breaking point before we act in this country. The menace of the NYSC is not a new thing. Every time you come close to overlooking the scheme and its rubbish, another story comes to rile you. I had never liked NYSC and don’t bother ask me why.
After my experiencing of serving our fathers land, I had been following issues and excruciating experiences of Corp members. I had my own share of such experience. Some things are better not experienced even as they say experience is the best teacher; some will break you, mould you into another person: a stranger, evil person seeking revenge/nauseated at the sight of a group of people, etc. Some psychological issues...
Reading the story of five Corpers kidnapped in Rivers state, the deafen silence of the federal government, the non-disclosure of the Corpers identity by the NYSC, I wonder if our government would rather compensate families than protect the lives of the youths (citizens) or is this a ploy to eliminate youths? Youths are said to be the leaders of tomorrow, is it the dead that would lead?
Campaigns to Free the Corpers had been organised; asking all Batch B 2011 Corp members to boycott the passing out parade on the 16th of June, 2011. Since NYSC and the Federal government had decided to go deaf and dumb on this issue, maybe this will get their attention. At every point we have to act for ourselves. There are so many questions that plague the mind here.
We are a people who live on the principle “All man for himself”. Each citizen had in one way or the other learnt to be the government; providing the necessities supposed to be the government’s function. Expecting electricity for just 20 minutes in a week is seen as an insane wish in some parts of the country. Basic social amenities like water, electricity even road have become a duty fatalistically carried out by individuals with a simple shrug of “God dey”!
Parents for many of us had been the government we have known all our life. They slave to provide things the government had denied us. And certainly after service year, they would be the government to turn to for job. Mulling over this, will youths all over the country agree to boycott the passing out parade? The only reason most youths endure the service year is for the certificate. Would anyone trade that to get the attention of a government that had never been there for them? Won’t that everyman for himself attitude come to play here? A case of ‘eni ori yo’dile’.
The Rivers state government had been said to claim they won’t be paying any ransom. I wonder if they were inspired by some American film; they had better wake to reality. There was money to pay when foreigners were kidnapped, are they waiting to compensate? Come to think of it, why would Corp members be kidnapped? Are the kidnappers trying to get the attention of the government believing that Corpers are ‘Government Child’ or on the view of many communities that Corp members are viruses eating their allocation?
To answer the questions plaguing the mind, a simple shrug of “God dey” seems to fit perfectly. But no! God didn’t kidnap them, some people did. It is our responsibility to take action; poke, push, question, petition, compel the various arms of government, NYSC and any other group or individual(s) involved. #FreetheCorpers
After my experiencing of serving our fathers land, I had been following issues and excruciating experiences of Corp members. I had my own share of such experience. Some things are better not experienced even as they say experience is the best teacher; some will break you, mould you into another person: a stranger, evil person seeking revenge/nauseated at the sight of a group of people, etc. Some psychological issues...
Reading the story of five Corpers kidnapped in Rivers state, the deafen silence of the federal government, the non-disclosure of the Corpers identity by the NYSC, I wonder if our government would rather compensate families than protect the lives of the youths (citizens) or is this a ploy to eliminate youths? Youths are said to be the leaders of tomorrow, is it the dead that would lead?
Campaigns to Free the Corpers had been organised; asking all Batch B 2011 Corp members to boycott the passing out parade on the 16th of June, 2011. Since NYSC and the Federal government had decided to go deaf and dumb on this issue, maybe this will get their attention. At every point we have to act for ourselves. There are so many questions that plague the mind here.
We are a people who live on the principle “All man for himself”. Each citizen had in one way or the other learnt to be the government; providing the necessities supposed to be the government’s function. Expecting electricity for just 20 minutes in a week is seen as an insane wish in some parts of the country. Basic social amenities like water, electricity even road have become a duty fatalistically carried out by individuals with a simple shrug of “God dey”!
Parents for many of us had been the government we have known all our life. They slave to provide things the government had denied us. And certainly after service year, they would be the government to turn to for job. Mulling over this, will youths all over the country agree to boycott the passing out parade? The only reason most youths endure the service year is for the certificate. Would anyone trade that to get the attention of a government that had never been there for them? Won’t that everyman for himself attitude come to play here? A case of ‘eni ori yo’dile’.
The Rivers state government had been said to claim they won’t be paying any ransom. I wonder if they were inspired by some American film; they had better wake to reality. There was money to pay when foreigners were kidnapped, are they waiting to compensate? Come to think of it, why would Corp members be kidnapped? Are the kidnappers trying to get the attention of the government believing that Corpers are ‘Government Child’ or on the view of many communities that Corp members are viruses eating their allocation?
To answer the questions plaguing the mind, a simple shrug of “God dey” seems to fit perfectly. But no! God didn’t kidnap them, some people did. It is our responsibility to take action; poke, push, question, petition, compel the various arms of government, NYSC and any other group or individual(s) involved. #FreetheCorpers
Friday, May 20, 2011
Still on 21st rapture
The offer in my last post is still on,at least for those in the geographical zone that won't see 21st until almost 24 hours to come. Thanks for your cooperation.
Now due to time zone,the Aussie would be the first to rapture because they would certainly get to 21st May,2011 before some other continents. Check your time people,dont forget to wish them happy rapturing! They getting the first ticket had me mulling.
Aussies are so lucky you know? They get to pick the best rooms,I imagine them choosing the ocean view parts,gardens,wildlifes(oh wild animals cant be wild in paradise,can they?);Aussies are nature lovers. Taste the food first,first shower,hang-out with the angels, etc. Won't they get to choose the virgins first?Depending on your belief though.
Well I hope there would be internet facility over there,maybe someone would update us what's happening. A status update on facebook,twitter,etc saying via paradise.com/heaven.com would be much appreciated. Better, if a blogger raptured and blogs about the experience so that 'doubting Thomases' in the time zones yet to make 21st May,2011 would see proof.
I hope an Aussie will do us all that favour. It's time to wish all those in Australia a smooth rapturing. Thanks as we await your post via paradise.com
Now due to time zone,the Aussie would be the first to rapture because they would certainly get to 21st May,2011 before some other continents. Check your time people,dont forget to wish them happy rapturing! They getting the first ticket had me mulling.
Aussies are so lucky you know? They get to pick the best rooms,I imagine them choosing the ocean view parts,gardens,wildlifes(oh wild animals cant be wild in paradise,can they?);Aussies are nature lovers. Taste the food first,first shower,hang-out with the angels, etc. Won't they get to choose the virgins first?Depending on your belief though.
Well I hope there would be internet facility over there,maybe someone would update us what's happening. A status update on facebook,twitter,etc saying via paradise.com/heaven.com would be much appreciated. Better, if a blogger raptured and blogs about the experience so that 'doubting Thomases' in the time zones yet to make 21st May,2011 would see proof.
I hope an Aussie will do us all that favour. It's time to wish all those in Australia a smooth rapturing. Thanks as we await your post via paradise.com
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
21st rapture....My take
To whom it concerns
It has certainly come to my notice that many of you have been preparing for the coming of the son of God which I learned in the bible, no one knows, even the son himself is not privy to such information. Now some people have been able to decode the day. Just a silent fart; ‘wiki’ will ‘leak’. Nothing surprises one anymore these days; advancement in technology had given man the edge, I dare say, gods didn’t have. Prophet meets Technology; resulting into a wider spread of prophecies, visions, illusions, dreams, faith and the likes. With it each dawning of the day, more tinge to it as it spreads.
It is no wondering that prophecy of the end of the world, according to some ‘individuals’ will be on the 21st May, 2011, had spread all over the world. People are religiously noting countdown to the day, becoming more careful, prayerful, and keeping holy to make rapture; canceling engagements that fall after the 20th of the month, after all they hopefully won’t be on earth by then. Some are leaning on ‘WHAT IF IT IS TRUE?’ Wouldn’t hurt to be penitent for now; working towards rapture and if it doesn’t happen, life continues. Life continues, in the old ways I guess... are you playing logic with God?
Anyway that is not my concern here. I am to inform you that there are some of us, who are so willing to remain on earth after 21st of May, 2011. Umm, I smell you grief for us! Don’t worry, we will carry on just fine and as such wouldn’t mind if you bestow your earthly possessions onto us. We all know earthly possessions wouldn’t rapture with you; giving it out to us before 21st would do you good. You might want to include charity in your act of penitence; surely your kindness shall be rewarded in heaven.
Though we could as well take them when you are gone, we are offering you the chance to turn it around to favour your heaven making. It is a perfect logic, you know? We are just that nice. So as you prepare, make this sacrifice to top your admission into heaven. To donate your possession, contact me through all means available. If you are confused, ask Google. Wish your smooth rapture in advance.
God bless!
P.S- 21st is almost here. Take your chances while the offer last!
It has certainly come to my notice that many of you have been preparing for the coming of the son of God which I learned in the bible, no one knows, even the son himself is not privy to such information. Now some people have been able to decode the day. Just a silent fart; ‘wiki’ will ‘leak’. Nothing surprises one anymore these days; advancement in technology had given man the edge, I dare say, gods didn’t have. Prophet meets Technology; resulting into a wider spread of prophecies, visions, illusions, dreams, faith and the likes. With it each dawning of the day, more tinge to it as it spreads.
It is no wondering that prophecy of the end of the world, according to some ‘individuals’ will be on the 21st May, 2011, had spread all over the world. People are religiously noting countdown to the day, becoming more careful, prayerful, and keeping holy to make rapture; canceling engagements that fall after the 20th of the month, after all they hopefully won’t be on earth by then. Some are leaning on ‘WHAT IF IT IS TRUE?’ Wouldn’t hurt to be penitent for now; working towards rapture and if it doesn’t happen, life continues. Life continues, in the old ways I guess... are you playing logic with God?
Anyway that is not my concern here. I am to inform you that there are some of us, who are so willing to remain on earth after 21st of May, 2011. Umm, I smell you grief for us! Don’t worry, we will carry on just fine and as such wouldn’t mind if you bestow your earthly possessions onto us. We all know earthly possessions wouldn’t rapture with you; giving it out to us before 21st would do you good. You might want to include charity in your act of penitence; surely your kindness shall be rewarded in heaven.
Though we could as well take them when you are gone, we are offering you the chance to turn it around to favour your heaven making. It is a perfect logic, you know? We are just that nice. So as you prepare, make this sacrifice to top your admission into heaven. To donate your possession, contact me through all means available. If you are confused, ask Google. Wish your smooth rapture in advance.
God bless!
P.S- 21st is almost here. Take your chances while the offer last!
Sunday, April 17, 2011
...a hole in mind
Belly crys,head aches
a jobless tomorrow,no pay...
grateful am alive;how do I survive?
This ideas
this ideals
...will light a fire
will spark the glow,tomorrow.
Hope, faith
owed
to time
wanes.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
...aint I 'Goodluck'?
Dear GEJ,
Apparently, you have been very busy lately; all these campaigns, night out with Dbanj, intriguing adverts,etc,many more I yet know. Days past, there had been down pours of political rains and I'm yet to find the 'umblerra' to hide under... That interesting advert of yours, 'I AM GOODLUCK' caught my eye, so I gave it a thought.
I'd remembered my tattered school bags,patched uniforms,etc and this was decades after your experience. It surely gave a feeling of being you.
But Sir, how can i be Goodluck who wouldn't attend the youths debate as they ask #whataboutus? If i were you,this blackout of about a week now wouldn't be my portion #lightupnaija. I certainly enjoy the 'Dame House of Umblerra'...such a wife! The wonderful tale of how events fit in like puzzle tiles (impeachment here;death there) soothes many. Makes sense to want to be Goodluck;be part of the national cake sharing. If males are Goodluck, females should be Dame..that isnt 'lame' right? #justsaying.
Come to think of it,why write a letter to myself; aint I Goodluck?
Apparently, you have been very busy lately; all these campaigns, night out with Dbanj, intriguing adverts,etc,many more I yet know. Days past, there had been down pours of political rains and I'm yet to find the 'umblerra' to hide under... That interesting advert of yours, 'I AM GOODLUCK' caught my eye, so I gave it a thought.
I'd remembered my tattered school bags,patched uniforms,etc and this was decades after your experience. It surely gave a feeling of being you.
But Sir, how can i be Goodluck who wouldn't attend the youths debate as they ask #whataboutus? If i were you,this blackout of about a week now wouldn't be my portion #lightupnaija. I certainly enjoy the 'Dame House of Umblerra'...such a wife! The wonderful tale of how events fit in like puzzle tiles (impeachment here;death there) soothes many. Makes sense to want to be Goodluck;be part of the national cake sharing. If males are Goodluck, females should be Dame..that isnt 'lame' right? #justsaying.
Come to think of it,why write a letter to myself; aint I Goodluck?
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